what to expect

What is the difference between a counsellor, coach, mentor and advisor? The differences are subtle, but at the end of the day all of these roles assist in helping someone interpret the events occurring around them, how their brain processes these events and ultimately how one responds by way of their behaviours. 

I hope to help guide and teach you, ("coach you" so to speak) in recognizing why you do what you do and making the changes needed to help you stop harming others, including those you love the most. My program is not only structured to assure specific concepts are covered, but it is also individualized. I have learned no two cases are the same and I wish to respect your unique circumstances.

I do not do assessments on mental health disorders or provide prescriptions or guidance on medications. I leave that for psychiatrists and psychologists. Quite simply - I focus on changing your perspective on violence and providing the skillset to manage situations that could lead to (or have led to) violence.

Anger management issues occur when your anger leads to behaviours (including words, gestures and behaviours that cause harm to yourself or others). In its most generic form, it can be seen as an outburst from yourself towards others that is neither healthy nor required. It could be yelling at someone in the grocery store or restaurant because you are not being served properly. It can be swearing or gesturing at someone in traffic because you do not like how they drive. It can be assaulting someone because they argued a point of view you do not agree with. It can be vandalizing or damaging someone’s property because you do not see ‘eye to eye’ with them. The common denominator is you do things, when you are angry, that violate someone else. You may not see it that way in the moment and even justify it to yourself but when considered by a separate individual (a friend, stranger or the courts), their view would be that you crossed some lines that not only did not need to be crossed but also should not have been crossed.

The above is one type of anger issue. The second is how it can be very different when it occurs between individuals in a dating / marriage - type relationships. The difference is that when anger is harmful in an intimate-type relationship, it tends to be isolated to that relationship. That individual is able to manage hurtful words / actions when in public however does not do so when in private. Whereas the person with generic anger management issues may boast of having beaten someone up in a bar or having thrown a co-worker's property out the window, such boasting does not occur from the individual that slapped or choked his girlfriend. As you can likely tell, the regular anger management issue is less discriminating and can appear pretty much anywhere and against anyone. For anger issues in domestic matters, the abusive individual is able to control their anger when they want too (usually in public) and let themselves ‘lose’ control of their anger when in private.