ANGER MANAGEMENT: JUST THE BASICS

Recognizing what things come together for us to make decisions of using violence/abuse. Understanding and applying the skills that help us make decisions that are non-violent/abusive.

• Defining violence and abuse. What do these words mean?
• Distinguish between violence, aggression and anger. Which is appropriate and normal – which is a choice?
• Homework TBA

• Components of behaviour – why we do what we do.
• Relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
• Values – when do we give ourselves permission to be aggressive or violent/abusive.
• What distinguishes some people from choosing non-violence/abuse and those that choose violence/abuse.
• Homework TBA

• What are feelings? How important is it to label them accurately?
• Impact of intense feelings (arousal) on our thoughts and ultimately on our behaviour.
• Time out (what is it and what does it require to be effective).

• Importance of Self Talk (inside words/dialogue that gets us wound up or calm us down).
• Types of Self Talk (minimizing, rationalizing, blaming vs. understanding, accepting, empathy).
• Thought processes we use to justify our behaviour. Importance of taking responsibility for our behaviour (good and bad).
• Homework TBA

• Distinguishing what you control and what you do not control.
• Let's explore the notion of control more in depth.
• Making decisions based on what you do or do not control.
• Making the final connection between thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
• Homework TBA

• Brief review of what we covered.
• Show me what you learned on what comes together for violence/abuse to occur and what could have been done to assure your behaviour would have been non-violent.
• Let's explore some scenarios that may happen for you and how to appropriately handle them.

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